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Getting rid of a guilty conscience: You can do that

If you want to get rid of your guilty conscience, there are a few tips you can use to get a grip on it. It often helps if you wonder what exactly is triggering your feelings of guilt and whether they are justified.

This is how you get rid of your guilty conscience

A guilty conscience plagues people when they feel they have done something wrong. Self-doubt and reproaches are the consequence. Here's what you can do to get rid of your guilty conscience.

  • First, ask where the guilty conscience comes from. In many cases, people wrongly blame themselves for having very high expectations and not being able to meet them. Other people can be to blame for feeling guilty too.
  • If you really made a mistake, stand by it. Apologize to the person concerned if your actions had consequences for others. In this way you can face your responsibility and clear your guilty conscience.
  • Making amends can also help get rid of your guilty conscience. For example, if you have recently neglected your partner a lot, in the future you will consciously take time for two and surprise the other with a little something.
  • If the reason for your guilty conscience is irreversible, you should detach yourself from the past and look to the future. There is no point in fighting against yourself for a long time with accusations. Instead, think about how you can avoid such mistakes in the future.
  • If you constantly have a guilty conscience and often let other people persuade you, you should strengthen your self-esteem. Accept the criticism of your behavior, but do not allow yourself to be downgraded or unsettled as a person. People make mistakes and can sometimes have a remorse - but that shouldn't be a permanent condition.

Where our guilty conscience comes from

Sometimes people cannot even assign why they have a guilty conscience. It feels like you've done something wrong. But where does the guilty conscience actually come from?

  • We are brought up with certain morals and learn early on what is right and wrong. In addition, there are values ​​such as honesty, loyalty or willingness to help, which we use as a guide. Those who violate their own morals or values ​​usually suffer from a bad conscience afterwards.
  • If your demands on yourself are too high, you expect a certain perfectionism from yourself, which cannot work and which automatically leads to a guilty conscience. For example, if you never manage to get through your to-do list, you don't need to feel guilty about it; you should set more realistic goals for yourself.
  • Often people feel guilty before they have even done anything wrong. This is because they expect certain reactions from others and are afraid of disappointing others. So cancel an appointment in good time because something has come up, you haven't made a major mistake and you can still feel bad about it.

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