Should I stop loving this girl?

How can I stop loving him?

Dear Gabi,

it's mega complicated between me and this boy ... We're not together. He doesn't want a relationship, but treats me like his girlfriend, even in public. He kisses me and holds my hand - even if everyone can see it. He is so loving and kind to me. I think he has feelings, but he doesn't want to let them happen and I don't know why.

He's hurt me before. He apologized and wanted to see me again. I forgave him - even though I knew he was no good for me. I can't tell him anything about my feelings because then he would pull the brakes straight away and stop hitting me. I can tell from the way he looks at me and treats me like a princess that I am important to him. It can't all be an act. That's why he's not good for me and will probably hurt me again. I love him, but I don't want to admit it. I miss him even if I shouldn't miss him. I know he's going to break my heart.

Gabi's answer

Hi my love,

thank you for your mail and your trust. I would love to take you in my arms and hold you tight! I can feel your conflict: you love this boy and you know at the same time that he will break your heart.

I want to reassure you: You are so attentive and empathetic - even towards yourself - that you will feel exactly when the moment is to leave. I have a feeling that you will take good care of yourself. Because you have known for a long time: you have to protect yourself in order not to get hurt again. And believe me: You have this power. One day you will make the decision to delete him from your life. Then you will surely still miss him for a while - but not so much that you let yourself be hurt.

Lots of love, Gabi