Is self-confidence a strength

Strengthening self-confidence: tips and exercises

With these tips we can strengthen our self-confidence

We all somehow want to have self-confidence! Some would like a large portion, others would be satisfied with a smaller one. After all, self-confident people always seem somehow more confident than others, have a great, positive charisma and go through life a little easier. Self-confidence should not be confused with arrogance. Confucius already knew this subtle difference: "The noble-minded person is self-confident, but not haughty. The common one is haughty, but not self-confident".

What is self-esteem anyway?

But what do we have to do with a healthy self-confidence, a strong self-confidence? In the Duden, it says on the subject of self-confidence that it is about being convinced of one's abilities goes of his worth as a person. With this definition, a decisive characteristic crystallizes out very clearly: Self-confident people are fully aware of their strengths, but also of their weaknesses. And this is exactly where they differ from their less self-confident fellow human beings. Because they accept these weaknesses and do not judge themselves all the time because of them and therefore do not feel bad either.

Strengthen self-confidence with simple steps

But self-confidence also means believing in yourself and being convinced of yourself. That's why Self-confidence also has nothing to do with outward appearances has to do. Neither money, success, appearance, nor countless friends are responsible for it. It is much more about an inner attitude that is neither inheritable nor can it be bought. But here's the good news: We can work on ourselves and train and build our self-esteem. It only takes a few small steps that can make a big difference.

Tip 1: self-acceptance for more self-confidence

An important ingredient for your self-esteem is self-acceptance. We shouldn't constantly struggle with ourselves and our little weaknesses. This also applies to our appearance or our abilities. We should accept each other with all our quirks and mistakes. If we can do that, our self-confidence also grows.

exercise: On a piece of paper, write down a) all the things that you like about yourself and b) all the things that you still struggle with about yourself. Then consider what is human about these supposed weaknesses and try to forgive yourself for the latter. For example, if you wrote something like: “I'm always so impatient”, then you could say to yourself: “This is totally human because I like to move things forward”.


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Tip 2: Overcome the inner critic

We ourselves are our toughest critic. We'll tell you how to find our inner peace with a few exercises. For example this one: We are stuck in a traffic jam and think: How stupid that I didn't take the other route. Let us give ourselves the self-criticism! Let's treat ourselves a little more gently. If we've only practiced this a few times, we may not be so hard on ourselves in the future.

Tip 3: exercise respect

Surely everyone has lost or at least thought about a bad word or two about a colleague or friend. We should avoid that, too, because things like that fall back on ourselves. And yet we just want to collect good karma through thought and action. So we should treat others with respect.


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Tip 4: trust your inner voice

This is what we all want: to be able to free ourselves from the opinions of others. We don't have to seek advice from our fellow human beings to do what is supposedly the right thing to do. This applies above all to decisions that have to do with ourselves. We prefer to rely on our gut instinct and common sense.

exercise: Often we can no longer hear our inner voice because the outside world is already so loud. Meditate regularly to turn your gaze inward and to listen deeply to your upcoming decisions.

Tip 5: learn to deal with criticism

Criticism can get us ahead - if it is constructive. Remain open and attentive even when we are criticized. But we should also take the time to decide whether this opinion will help us or not.

Tip 6: Don't take anything personally

We should take ourselves seriously, but not too seriously! This is how we manage not to take certain things and situations too personally. The probability that the conversation between the two colleagues in the hallway revolves around us is rather low.

Tip 7: positive charisma

Clothing, hairstyle, body language, inner demeanor - all of this influences our charisma. And this in turn is directly linked to our self-confidence. We have some tips and tricks here that will improve our image.

Tip 8: celebrate success

Often the joy about a goal achieved only lasts for a short time and is quickly forgotten again afterwards. We can be proud of every small step we have made!

exercise: In order to train self-confidence, it helps to record these successes in writing, for example in a notebook. Note down large and small success stories. Whenever we leaf through this success notebook from time to time, we freshen up such positive situations and learn to be proud of ourselves.

Tip 9: change your posture

Our posture has a huge impact on our confidence. When we straighten up, drop our shoulders and pull back, not only do we appear more confident on the outside, but we also feel stronger on the inside.

exercise: Do a "power pose" regularly - for example, you take a firm stance, put your hands on your hips, push your chest out and hold your head up. After a minute you should already be feeling a lot more confident.

Tip 10: books can help you

Reading books can boost our self-confidence in so many ways: We acquire more knowledge and encourage our creativity and empathy. There are also many books on self-confidence that can help you become more aware of yourself.


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