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Baby blues - low mood after the birth

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Around three quarters of all mothers experience a period of depression or sadness after giving birth, which usually begins three to six days after delivery and is often associated with the loss of milk. This condition is known as baby blues or postpartum low mood. The low mood disappears within hours or days without the need for treatment. Symptoms include increased emotionality, sadness, crying, mood swings, anxiety, exhaustion, and sleep and appetite disorders.

This is a natural adjustment process of women from pregnant woman to mother and is a reaction to the overwhelming life change associated with the birth of a baby. On the physical level, the enormous hormonal changes that take place after the birth and with the onset of milk production are primarily responsible for the low mood.

Although this pronounced emotionality is often experienced as frightening and unsettling, it also has positive effects. During this time, women often experience heightened sensitivity. Own feelings and external stimuli are perceived more intensely. It is known, for example, that women who have recently given birth can smell particularly well and recognize their child by their own scent. This heightened sensitivity helps the mother to give the newborn the attention and love it needs. On the other hand, tears can help you to find the sleep you deserve after the often euphoric and agitated state of the hours and days after the birth.

It is important that you get as much active and moral support as possible from your partner, family and friends during this time. So don't be silent! Talk about your feelings instead of piling them up. Cry when you feel like it. Above all: don't be afraid not to live up to the false cliché of the happy woman who has recently given birth. Remember that the majority of those who have just delivered are just like you! Take some time for yourself. Treat yourself to a break to recharge your batteries. Eating a healthy diet and doing light physical exercise also relieves tension.

It should be noted that healthy women who have recently given birth are often discharged from the clinic at this sensitive time. Therefore, take precautions and organize help from those around you and / or from a midwife who can accompany and support you at home before you are discharged.

Some herbal teas have a mentally supportive and mood-enhancing effect, e.g. made from lemon balm leaves, hop cones, motherwort, lady's mantle herb and yarrow herb.

If the low mood lasts longer than two weeks, there is a suspicion of postpartum depression. You should then speak to your midwife, maternal advisor or gynecologist as soon as possible.

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Last update: 13-05-20, BH / swissmom midwives team