What is a common misconception about feminism

"Write to me when you are at home."

Created by Kristina Langhof

"Text me when you get home" - write to me when you are at home, says the Instagram post by Englishwoman Lucy Mountain, which has been "liked" over two million times since last Thursday. The post was created after the murder of 33-year-old Sarah Everard in London and draws attention to how many women feel uncomfortable when they go home alone at night and that it is natural for girlfriends to let them know when they have arrived safely is. The incident sparked a debate in England. The London police had previously advised all women not to go out of the house alone at night. As a result, the politician Jenny Jones proposed to set up a curfew for men. This met with great protest (mainly) from men. A little later, the politician made it clear that the proposal should only show how natural it is to discuss what women should and shouldn't do, but that this does not apply when it comes to what men should or shouldn't do.

When women talk about feminism, men often comment: "Not that topic again". And anyway, as a man you can't be a feminist at all. It seems like the word feminism scares some men or makes them feel like something is being taken away from them. Another common misconception is that the goal of feminism is to oppress men. This is exactly where the problem begins. Feminism advocates equality between men and women. Not that women usurped world domination and imprisoned all men. “We live in Germany, women are equal there” is also among the top 10 anti-feminism comments. That's right, we live in Germany. But why were we told at school "For a girl do you play football well ”? Why do we take a detour while jogging so that we don't have to run past the group of men who have just whistled after us? Why do we have to listen to comments like: “Well, women are generally more likely to be approved. Especially when they are pretty (wink) ”? Probably because we're so equal, right. But well, maybe we’ll just queue up. I mean, if any of my friends can immediately give examples of verbally or physically harassed by a man, that's probably just a coincidence, isn't it?

"Not the subject again". As a woman, you don't feel like discussing it any more. We are also tired of repeatedly explaining why every man who walks towards us on the way home is a potential danger. And of course, not every man is dangerous or has bad intentions. But especially men and boys who are “not like that” should do more to make us feel safe as women. It is not enough not to be like that yourself. Bring your friends home, call them when they are out alone, talk to your friends if their behavior towards women was wrong, cross the street when a woman meets you at night and listen when women have negative experiences tell. You too can and should be feminists.

Many young men say that if they ever have a daughter, she should never have a boyfriend. After all, you would know what makes some men tick. I think that's just like saying women shouldn't go out if they're uncomfortable with it. Is that supposed to be the solution? Or can men help ensure that their daughters will feel safe later when they go home alone at night?

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